Coping With Separation and Divorce May Leave Guys Angry and Lonely

Half of all marriages end in divorce and that number is even higher for second marriages. Many articles, studies, and family members are concerned about how women cope with divorce, but, sometimes, it seems like divorced men are being ignored.
Divorce for Men
In reality, men usually have bigger emotional adjustment problems with divorce than women do. The causes are:

Loss of intimacy
Loss of social connection
Reduced finances

And, while men often complain about the money (spousal maintenance, child support, loss of assets), this is probably because it is easier …

Barring marriage by same-sex couples is not the only way that New York State’s policies on marriage are stuck in the past and inflict needless pain.
In 2006, a special blue-ribbon state commission sensibly called for overhauling state law to allow no-fault divorce. The reform enjoys broad support within legal circles and well beyond. Practically every New Yorker has a bitter divorce story, even if it’s not his or her own. Yet four years, and a countless number of traumatized parents and children later, Albany has yet to act.
As a result of that inaction, New York …

More than half of all marriages end in divorce, and the majority of these involve children, according to the National Center for Health Statistics. Conflict between parents, before and after divorce, is associated with feelings of anger, helplessness, loneliness and guilt in children. Now, an online program created by University of Missouri researchers is teaching separated parents to maintain and nurture relationships with their children.
“There is a great need for effective online programs to support and educate separated parents,” said Larry Ganong, co-chair of Human Development and Family Studies (HDFS) in the College of Human …

The traditional nuclear family is irretrievably breaking down as children are increasingly raised by relations other than their parents, the head of a Government-funded parenting group says.
The Family and Parenting Institute says grandparents, aunts and uncles are helping out more in childcare responsibilities in a form of ‘communal parenting’ as parents struggle to cope with marital breakdown and work. One in four children is now brought up in a one-parent household, the vast majority of which are led by mothers.
The Institute suggests that rising divorce rates, fewer marriages and the growth of civil partnerships mean …

Diane Sollee, SmartMarriages.com
Tango June 2007
Questions:
1) The number one predictor of divorce is:
a) Ongoing disagreement over money and financial issues.
b) The habitual avoidance of conflict.
c) Yelling and screaming during fights.
2) Couples that “go the distance”—whose marriages are successful—have fewer disagreements about the three core issues: sex, money, and housework.
True or False?
3) Couples that are constantly yelling or complaining are doomed.
True or false?
4) When discussing a problem or disagreement, it is important to:
a) Keep feelings out of the discussion, and try to stick to the facts.
b) Be sure you can accurately state your partner’s position, including his …

Study Finds Divorced and Widowed Adults Have 20 Percent More Chronic Conditions than Married People
(CBS) Can divorce make you sick?
Yes, according to a new study that finds divorce and widowhood have a lingering, detrimental impact on health — even after remarriage.
The study, scheduled to be published in the September issue of the Journalof Health and Social Behavior, analyzes data from nearly 9,000 adults nationwide, ages 51 to 61, and finds those who had been divorced or widowed suffered 20 percent more chronic health conditions, such as heart disease, diabetes or cancer, than individuals who were …

“Single mothers who put photos of their pre-school kids on their social networking homepages are creating a happy hunting ground for pedophiles.”
The warning comes from Crystal Jacquez, managing editor of Guys and Lies.com, the online back grounding site designed exclusively for women.
“Single mothers almost always do it.” says, Jacquez.  “It’s not only incredibly dangerous but worse, most single moms have absolutely no idea that it’s dangerous at all!”
“Think of it,” continues Jacquez, “if you’re one of the tens of thousands of pedophiles with a taste for really young kids, how do you get to them? …

Keith Geren, Canwest News Service
April 10, 2009
Parents thinking about getting divorced, especially for the second or third
time, should consider the impact of that decision on their children’s
schooling, new research from University of Alberta suggests.
The groundbreaking study — believed to the first in Canada to look at the
long-term impacts of household upheaval on academic success — found
children who experience changes to their family structure are MUCH MORE
LIKELY to become high school dropouts than classmates whose parents stay
together.
The findings were particularly grim for children who live through three or
more parental changes: divorce or death, remarriage or another …

By STEPHANIE OBLEY 

A new therapeutic tool for helping children deal with divorce may appeal to kids in a way nothing else will – as a computer video game. Earthquake in Zipland debuted last year and is a quest-style game that follows the struggles of Moose, the son of the King and Queen of Zipland, a small paradise island held together by a zipper. An earthquake rips the island in two, leaving the king and queen on separate islands, and Moose sets out to build a new zipper to bring the islands – and his parents – …

Children are often the biggest casualties in divorce. Parents who fight over child custody, visitation, child support and other child related divorce matters sometimes lose sight of how devastating a divorce can be on a child, even under the most amicable circumstances. In July America is recognizing the first National Child-Centered Divorce Month. Rosalind Sedacca, CCT, initiated this designation as a time for professionals who counsel divorcing parents to stress the importance of putting their children’s physical, emotional and spiritual needs first when making crucial life-altering decisions affecting their entire family. July is being recognized …